16 Ways to Date Your Spouse, That You Might Not Have Tried Before.
/EMILY LOGIN
“Date your spouse” has become one of those cliché-Hallmark sayings. A nice hashtag or a way of writing off an indulgent night. The reality, though, is that your sacred marital union needs to be intentionally worked on, like any other good and holy endeavor.
Love is creative! Even after marriage, it still takes consistent, intentional friendship to continually get to know this other person you’ve committed your life to.
Early on in marriage, my husband and I decided to set aside Friday as our date night. While we have not followed through every week, it has been such a gift to us! After a long week of work, it’s exciting having a night together to look forward to.
Some nights we have an elaborate event planned. Some nights the only thing we have energy for is pizza and a movie. Regardless of the plan though, we take a few minutes earlier in the week to come up with an idea together for our date. Setting aside intentional time to put aside work and chores, and simply focus on each other, has been so fruitful in our marriage.
Here are a few or our favorite fun, creative date night ideas for married couples:
1. Sip and Paint at home. Get some canvases, a favorite beverage of choice and find a Youtube tutorial of a fun scene to follow along with. (*Bonus: you now have new and meaningful artwork to hang up somewhere in your home or give as a gift!)
2. Make a meal of your choice and eat at home. The challenge? No utensils! My spouse actually surprised me with this hilarious idea (kind of by accident) on our very first date! He made me lasagna rolls that we ate entirely with just our hands. It was a cute, clever and creative way to break the ice!
3. Choose a new TV show, but watch only one episode per week. The excitement of waiting an entire week for the next episode is a fun and healthy tension builder, as well as a great conversation piece throughout the week.
4. Choose a favorite appetizer, like french fries or chips and queso and go to a couple different restaurants and order only that app to compare--an appetizer crawl, if you will! My husband and I love french fries and went through a period of traveling a lot during engagement and early marriage. We made a point of stopping at a new place for fries on almost every road trip!
5. Go to a pet store or animal shelter and talk about your favorite (and least favorite) pets. Who knows? You might come home with one! (Shout out to Mr. Red, our impulse-buy fish.)
6. Cookoff. Have each partner create the same dish each using a different recipe, such as chili or homemade pizza, and compare.
7. Plan a dream vacation! Research hotels, travel guides, and local restaurants. Save your research; who knows when it will come in handy?
8. Choose a novel, and take turns reading the chapters aloud to each other. It’s fun to get creative with voices for different characters and pausing at the end of chapters for discussion.
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9. Home Olympics. Come up with a list of mini games and competitions like cup stacking (how many plastic cups can you stack in one minute?), tissue box race (who can get all of the tissues out and back in the tissue box first?), or clothing relay (who can dress or undress in full winter snow gear the fastest?). Think back to elementary school field day for inspiration! Healthy competition is a great, and important way to play as spouses!
10. Write a novena together. A novena is a special way of interceding for something or someone by praying a special prayer (usually asking the intercession of a particular saint) for 9 days in a row. In my experience, this is one of the most beautiful and intimate experiences in prayer as a couple. When praying for a specific intention, don’t be afraid to go “off book” and write your own prayers.
11. Have each spouse pick out an entire outfit for the other partner to wear, including undergarments and accessories. You each have to wear the outfit the next day (or out to dinner that night, no questions asked! It can be a really humbling and intimate experience getting to see your beauty through your spouse’s eyes!
12. Couples massage night. Take turns offering a massage to the other partner. It is really fun to set up the atmosphere with soft music in the background, dim lights, candles and scented lotions!
13. Make a playlist together with your favorite songs. Give it a goofy name that represents an inside joke in your relationship.
14. Pick out several new ice cream flavors neither of you has tried before. Rank them together, from best to worst.
15. Dance lesson. Find a dance studio or community center that offers dance lessons, or get creative at home with a video tutorial! Even at home though, still get dressed up and make it an intentional special occasion!
16. Attempt a World Record: look up a fun world record to try and break together as a couple. This idea was inspired by an article I read recently about a man who just broke the world record for M&M stacking: 5 M&M’s. I was shocked that the World Record was only 5, so we bought a bag and tried it out! (*Spoiler: it was WAY harder than it looked! My husband’s record was two, and mine was one!)
I hope this list inspires you and your spouse’s own creativity and offers some fun quality time beyond your usual date night routines. Tell us, what’s your favorite date night activity?
About the Author: Emily Login is a wife and mother of one living in Maryland. She is a special education teacher at a Catholic school and runs a small online used bookstore called Lazarus Catholic Books.