Cooking through the Liturgical Year

MAGGIE STRICKLAND

 

As a newlywed, I struggled with how to incorporate liturgical living into our lives. The traditions I was familiar with, crafts and storybooks and the like, are geared towards teaching children about the saints and the seasons of the church year. We had received an Advent wreath as a wedding present, but, beyond that, I didn’t have a vision of how to anchor our lives into the church year; we didn’t have a list of family patrons whose feast days we desired to celebrate and I was overwhelmed by the sheer number of feast days that we could celebrate.

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After a few years of floundering--including several before our son was born when I made my convert husband put out his shoes for St. Nicholas, since he didn’t get to do that as a child--I’ve started to think about participating in the liturgical year in a simpler way. This practice will undoubtedly get more complex as our family grows, but an easy way for me to think about living liturgically right now is through our menus, choosing simple foods like soup and bread during penitential seasons and going all out during feasting seasons. Here are some cookbooks our family has tried that help me do just that.

Advent

12 Months of Monastery Soups by Brother Victor Antoine d’Avila-Latourrette

I discovered this cookbook at the library one fall when we were part of a vegetable co-op through my husband’s work. With its recipes grouped by month and focused on using seasonally available produce, it quickly became a staple in my meal planning rotation. All of the soups are simple, with just a few steps beyond chopping the produce, and some months even have soups named for particular saints. During Advent, any of the fall or winter soups, served with some bread and perhaps fruit, would make a delightful, filling meal that is both cozy and fitting for a penitential season. 

Lent

This Good Food: Contemporary French Vegetarian Recipes from a Monastery Kitchen by Brother Victor Antoine d’Avila-Latourrette Another seasonal cookbook from the same monastery, this one is also filled with recipes that are just as easy as the soups and don’t use lots of exotic ingredients, since the monastery aims to be as self-sufficient as possible. In this cookbook, Brother Victor also includes suggestions for how the monks would serve the dishes; the Italian frittata might be served with salad and fruit as the main meal on a fast day, for example. Using seasonal ingredients is often more cost-effective, as they are in plentiful supply and therefore less expensive, which makes this a perfect cookbook to utilize during Lent, when many people try to make more money available for charitable giving.

Easter and Christmas: 

Holiday and Celebration Bread in Five Minutes a Day by Jeff Hertzberg and Zoe Francois

This is one of our favorite cookbooks for special feast days; like the original cookbook, the base dough recipes are simple and mix up in five minutes, but they are then used in a variety of recipes that range from simple to complex. One of our family favorites is the brioche dough; we’ve used it to make the Holiday Star Bread for Christmas and Easter, as well as making it the base for our king cake on Fat Tuesday and birthday danishes. I like having a few tried-and-true recipes for special feast days and holidays, and I’ve learned not to be afraid of attempting complicated recipes for special occasions, because practice makes those dishes easier to produce each time.

Drinking with the Saints: The Sinner’s Guide to a Holy Happy Hour by Michael P. Foley

This recipe book is a fun way for adults who drink alcohol to participate in the liturgical calendar; Foley has gathered drink recipes and paired them with brief biographies of saints and descriptions of feast days. The first section of the book is arranged by month, with another section of the book for the seasons of the church year, so you have lots of options for how to approach this style of liturgical living. He does use the old pre-Vatican II calendar because there are more saints’ days on it, but there is an appendix in the back that allows you to switch to the newer calendar, which is the one that most people use. The introduction explains how to use the book, which is excellent if you’re novice cocktail makers like us, and the author discusses how to temperately use the book. 


About the Author: Maggie Strickland has loved reading and writing stories since her earliest memory. An English teacher by training and an avid reader by avocation, she now spends her days homemaking, chasing her toddler son, and reading during naptime. She and her husband are originally from the Carolinas, but now make their home in Birmingham, Alabama.

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How to Plan and Enjoy a Sabbath as a Couple

STEPHANIE CALIS

 

What do your Sundays currently look like? Do they align with how you’d like them to look?

Personally, I love coming home from morning Mass to have lunch with my family and read a book during my kids’ nap times, yet I admit I frequently spend the rest of the day cramming in meal prep, chores, and errands in an attempt to feel “ready” for the week ahead. In a culture of busyness and distraction, I suspect I’m not the only one.

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What does “ready” really mean, though? True, my Sunday habits help me feel materially and practically prepared, but too often I experience the creeping awareness that my spiritual and emotional readiness just hasn’t been satisfied. Lots of doing; not enough being. I crave carefree timelessness, but struggle to use my time well.

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I love the idea of a true Sabbath; a day to embrace the practices that help me, my husband, and our kids simply enjoy being present with one another in the activities that renew us and bring us joy. Here, for any others like me who desire a restorative Sunday routine, four questions to guide you in planning and entering into a fulfilling day of rest with those you love. 

What do we value?

Consider you and your beloved’s temperaments: what relationships, activities, and habits are most particularly important to you? For some couples, the answer might be social time with friends and family and for others, time alone for a date or a few relaxing hours at home. For some, it might be time away from screens, and for others, it might be catching up on movies or a show. For some, exercise is leisurely; for others, Sunday can be a break from the workout grind.

Examine and discuss what each of you values, and build those values into your Sabbath accordingly.

How can we distinguish our Sunday routines from the rest of the week?

Brainstorm and discuss ways you and your beloved can make each Sabbath feel distinctive from your typical weekly routines. This could take the form of morning or nighttime habits that encourage quality time and unhurriedness, like sleeping in and reading in bed, going for a walk, sharing reflections on the Mass readings for the day, or cooking a leisurely breakfast or dinner together. 

If you have children, consider simple, memorable rituals they can be involved with--for young kids, practices as seemingly ordinary as attending the donut Sunday after Mass, taking a family walk, or creating a short, Sunday-only prayer routine can become indelible memories! In my family, we like coming home from church to make eggs and toast and try to go on a low-key Sunday outing to nearby playgrounds or biking trails.

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What makes us feel most refreshed?

So many of us wish we had more time for hobbies or have a bucket list of activities we’d love to try “someday.” If you’re like me, perhaps you’ve ignored these lists in favor of scrolling through your phone, only to look up from the screen feeling restless and dull.

I encourage you--along with myself--to take the Sabbath as an invitation to engage in the activities that leave you feeling most alive and refreshed: time outdoors, reading, playing an instrument, or otherwise. Identify with your fiancé or spouse the activities you both love and can take part in together.

What weekend responsibilities can we reserve for Saturday instead of Sunday?

The imminent work week can make Sunday feel like an ideal time to get things done around the house and check off your to-do list, yet in my experience, I so often feel rushed trying to accomplish everything before Monday morning.

Instead, consider the time to breathe you afford yourself when you reserve cleaning, shopping, and organizing for Saturdays instead of Sundays. By doing the bulk of these tasks earlier in the weekend, you provide yourself with a cushion of extra time to get things done, as well as a needed break before your weekly routine begins again. 

So before the weekend starts, talk with your beloved about the responsibilities each of you hopes to accomplish, and plan how you can share and complete them as early on as you can.

What about you? If any of you have similar hopes for creating a true Sabbath, I’d love to hear the practices that have helped you do so and to learn about the weekend activities that bring you fully alive. Share in the comments and on Spoken Bride’s social media.


About the Author: Stephanie Calis is Spoken Bride's Editor in Chief and Co-Founder. She is the author of INVITED: The Ultimate Catholic Wedding Planner (Pauline, 2016). Read more

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Liturgical Living for Catholic Couples

ANDI COMPTON

 

Growing up, I never saw the seasons of the Church outside of the Mass. The priest changed colors occasionally, the Church was beyond crowded on Christmas and Easter, and every year Ordinary time seemed to go on forever. As a young adult, I was fascinated to learn about the different ways saints are venerated and celebrated throughout the world. I soon discovered liturgical living. 

The concept of Liturgical Living is simple: make the seasons of the Church come alive in your domestic church.

Over the past twelve years, my husband and I have tried many different traditions and celebrations in our marriage, in our home, and with our children; I share some of our favorites of the Liturgical seasons below:

Ordinary time

Decorate the home with greenery in a vase on the mantle, on the table, or in the windows. Some years we hang a wreath of greenery on our doorway as well.

Celebrate the saints’ feast days. Our go-to celebration includes reading a short blurb about the saint or feast day during dinner, and either cooking a dish from the saint’s home country, where they are regionally celebrated, or creating a dessert and trying to tie it in (ie., angel food cake for Guardian Angels). Some great saints to celebrate are St. Francis de Sales, St. John Bosco, St. Thomas Aquinas, St. Agatha, Sacred Heart of Jesus, Corpus Christi, Immaculate Heart of Mary, St. Benedict, Sts. Peter and Paul, St. Kateri Tekakwitha, St. Dominic, The Transfiguration, St. Lawrence, St. Maximillian Kolbe, The Assumption, The Coronation of Mary, St. Monica, St. Augustine, St. Teresa of Kolkuta, St. Therese, Guardian Angels, Our Lady of the Rosary, St. Luke, and St. Cecilia. 

 

Advent

During our first married Advent, we hosted a Church New Year Party. I decorated with purple and pink and made the atmosphere festive. Unfortunately I fell asleep during the party because I was pregnant--true story. I wish I could tell you if the guests enjoyed it!

Wait to put up Christmas decorations. We set up our tree when advent begins and use it as a Jesse tree. Each night we read one or two Bible stories to journey through salvation history from Adam to Jesus. We begin to turn on the tree’s lights on St. Lucy’s Day (December 13), and we put the ornaments up on the 24th. Some years we also wind purple and pink ribbons on the tree.

I created an 8x10 Advent printable that hangs in a frame on our front door until the 24th when it gets swapped for a Christmas wreath.

Celebrate Our Lady of Guadalupe. Some areas will have mananita Mass, but if you can’t find one nearby, you can celebrate the day with a trip to visit a parish with an Our Lady of Guadalupe image and indulge in your favorite Mexican food.

Purchase an Advent wreath and a set of candles. Every night before dinner prayers we shut off the kitchen lights and light the candles while singing “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel” and then say prayers. 

Place a nativity in your home. There are so many beautiful options of nativity scenes! I know friends who collect nativities wherever they travel; others have the Fontanini collection and add a piece every year.

 

Christmas

Go to Mass. We usually go to Mass on Christmas morning and open presents afterwards while eating waffles made with the recipe my husband’s grandfather made for them. 

Celebrate the octave of Christmas as the solemnity it is: eight days of feasting! We try to do an outing each day and let the kids (and ourselves) eat dessert every night.

Have a 12th night party for Epiphany. Celebrate Epiphany with gifts. Many cultures celebrate Los Reyes Magos and children receive presents on January 6th instead of Christmas Day. We leave our shoes out the night before and the Wise men leave us oranges, chocolate coins, and sometimes small toys.

Be really bold and leave up some decorations until February 2 for the Baptism of Our Lord. 

 

Lent

Prepare for Ash Wednesday. Before Ash Wednesday Mass, pray and talk about what penances and prayers you’d like to do together and separately. Also consider ways you could serve and give of your time to help the poor in your community. 

Attend Stations of the Cross at your local parish. Many even have a meatless supper afterwards to help build community.

Celebrate Passiontide, the week before Palm Sunday, by covering up all the holy images and items in your home with purple cloth. This has actually become my favorite Lenten tradition. Our home feels so different, so tomblike, without the faces of Jesus, Mary, and the saints watching over us.

 

Easter

Feast for 50 days. I’m not joking, eat dessert as much as you can. We begin with waffles after Mass, and all throughout Easter our kids get to eat the candy from our big neighborhood egg hunt.

Celebrate Divine Mercy Sunday. Say a chaplet with friends and family, then indulge in Divine Mercy Sundaes! We serve vanilla ice cream with two “rays” of whipped cream topped with red and blue sprinkles.

Celebrate the Ascension and Pentecost by saying the mysteries of the Rosary for those feast days and plan a special meal. 

Celebrate the Crowning of Mary. Often times May, the month of Mary, falls within the Easter season. If you have a special statue of her inside or outside of your home, crown her! There isn’t a wrong or right way to do this. You can say prayers, sing Marian hymns, and buy or make her a little crown of springtime blooms. Keep her company this month with lots of rosaries!

The quickest way to begin new liturgical living traditions is to incorporate green, white, purple, rose, and red tablecloths as a visual reminder of the significant day or season. It’s an easy change that makes a big impact in any space. If you’re able to buy or paint an “It’s your special day” plate, it can be used for birthdays, feast days, and to celebrate the anniversary of someone’s sacraments.

What is your favorite way to celebrate the different seasons of the Church? Share your reflections with our community on Facebook or Instagram.


About the Author: Andi is the Business Director for Spoken Bride, combining years of professional event coordination with a passion for helping couples truly enter into the sacrament of marriage. She has been married to her Beloved for 12 years and they have 5 children from toddler to tween.